Today I was thinking about how important feedback (from trusted, caring people) has been for my growth and development. Whether it was someone helping me see my small successes on the way to full recovery from Binge-Eating Disorder or my classmates and professors helping me recognize my strengths and areas of improvement as a counselor, feedback has been invaluable.
Do you have someone in your life who gives you realistic feedback in a way that you can process, learn and grow from it?
Several months ago, I wrote a blog post called “Progress Report”. The information in that one seems so important that I’d like to repeat some of it again today:
There are several things we and our loved ones can keep in mind when assessing progress:
* Any progress, no matter how small, is progress! Look for any movement towards the goal.
* There is no such thing as perfection. We human beings are works in progress. We will never be perfect, but there can be a day when we are in tune with and respectful of our body’s needs.
* Progress can be measured by a change in our thoughts, our attitudes, our emotions, or our behaviors in a way that is congruent with our goals.
* Sometimes there is no progress made on a particular goal. This can be due to lack of energy to devote to the goal, fear of failure (or success), ambivalence about the goal, the goal being too big or unrealistic, etc. The good news is that this is normal! Researchers in the field of counseling psychology and addictions have theorized that individuals go through five stages of change; the first three of these stages (precontemplation, contemplation, and goal-setting/planning) occur PRIOR to any action. So, not seeing progress is a normal part of the process of making a change.
So, again, I ask you to ponder whether you’re getting feedback about your personal and professional goals. If not, find a trusted friend, family member, or a therapist/counselor. Share your goals and ask them to help you take note of your progress. One day at a time, my friends!
Peace, joy, and health!